When I started blogging a few days ago I thought I would keep it vague and general. But, there are so many hurt people in this world who suffer from lack of advice or someone to just understand them. Considering, I’ve been through a lot, I feel that I can help people who are struggling with their emotions. Reading a few blogs on this website I saw that many people suffer from broken relationships and death and it gave me an idea of what to blog about today.
The most common misconception of losing somebody you love is that it will get easier or you’ll get over it. I can vouch that it does get easier losing somebody from your life that you were in a relationship or friendship with. It is also possible to completely recover and get over a broken relationship. But losing somebody you love to death seems to stay with you. I think people who have never experienced losing somebody they loved unconditionally to death, don’t fully understand the concept. Death seems like something everyone can relate to, but I’m not so sure it is.
When I lost my mom a few months ago it was expected which helped me a lot through the process because shock wasn’t a factor. The obvious and most difficult part about losing somebody is the fact that they are gone and never coming back. This is why I say it doesn’t get easier and, no, you don’t get over it. Losing somebody who was so important in your life just stays with you. You go through the motions everyday of waking up knowing you won’t see that person, listen to their voice, and touch them.. Ever again. There are days where you think about it constantly, and then there are days where you have a clear mind. You never know what to expect and you never know when it’s going to hit you all over again. The realization after something great or sad happens in your life, and you can’t confide or talk with them about it, sucks. This is when it really gets tough.
As time passes it doesn’t get easier but you do learn to accept the reality of the situation. You learn to live without this person and build a life without them in it. As scary and hard as that sounds, it has a way of working itself out. You will always have amazing memories and a part of them will always be with you because they touched you in so many ways. Whenever I see a beautiful scenery outside the first person I think of is my mom. The most random and odd things remind me of her, and now i just smile. I know that if I died tomorrow, I would want all the people who love me to be happy and follow their dreams. Instead of crying and mourning over my death I would want them to be reminded of me when they see something beautiful or inspiring. That is the best way to honor a loved one.
Remember to always surround yourself with people who are going to make the process of losing somebody easier and less painful. When shit gets real you realize who’s there for you and who’s not. Get rid of the insensitive people who add to the misery. Even if the person who’s making you miserable is a familiar face and makes you comfortable, don’t be afraid to walk out on them. Trust me, getting rid of a person who makes you feel worse about yourself, even during hardships, feels so much more liberating and makes you unbelievably strong.